Revisiting Disability Awareness Day

Dear Blog Readers,

I don’t know if it was clear in my last blog posting but I didn’t make it to Disability Awareness Day at the Vermont Statehouse in person because I was down in the dumps about my life. I am sure every one of you can relate to those mental health moments when you close in on yourself.

Today Emily and Brian told me about a great guy I missed seeing speak. He is a member of the Deaf community in Vermont. Joyful and tearful Emily was as she read a copy of his statement. He is a young farmer and he is an old wise, wide thinker.

I have a copy of his words. Please check them out below.

I hope you had a wonderful holiday weekend.

Fondly,

Mark

The Resurrected Advocate


"I am very happy to speak here today, and I have two questions to ask of you:

First of all, why should we support people with needs in Vermont? I'd like to point to the plaque down the hallway past the coat room here at the State House; a quote by Dorothy Canfield Fisher - “The Vermont tradition grapples energetically with the basic problem of human conduct... how to reconcile the needs of the group, of which every man or woman is a member,... with the craving for individual freedom to be what he really is."

We all have needs to be addressed, and it takes a community to answer them. After all, I came here today to speak about Deafness, but that would just be a rivulet in the mountain. I wish to speak about the whole paradigm of “disability”. That word has never sat well with me for my entire life. I must also admit that I felt like a burden to others for such a long time. Now I ask, must I be defined by what I lack, rather than what I can bring to the world as a unique individual? Once we gain that heart-understanding, we can empower ourselves to focus on what lessons we can teach each other.

Being Big “D” - Deaf”, a cultural noun, as opposed to a small “d”, a describing verb, indicates that being Deaf is a disability-induced culture, we have taken the loss of our hearing and turned it into the gain of new languages and cultures of the deaf all around the world. This is a human response of adaptation, which I believe is a beautiful expression of our basic impulse to create and thrive. The pathological attitude has led us to believe a story that we are less and defined by our lack of “parts”. Nothing could be further from the truth. As Goethe once said, “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts”.

We should not allow our politicians, experts, and society as whole define us by our differences. Instead we need to share our diversity because that is what makes the world an interesting place to live. May we share our adversity to find opportunities that open hearts and make the world a brighter place.

The Dalai Lama gave a speech at the US Senate a little over a year ago. He said - “With our thoughts, we make our world. Our mind is central and precedes our deeds. Speak or act with a pure mind, and happiness will follow you like a shadow that never leaves...”

So, when I see the word “disability” I see the word “difference”. I ask that we leave this room today and think about how we really want to define ourselves and our world?"


- Stuart Soboleski, Vermont Association of  the Deaf

Yes! Yes! Yes! and more Yes!

Dear Blog Readers,

Love is in the air as we now are in spring. I so much love what is in store for many of you. The time to act is now. Your best energy is right now. You are happy and open. Reach out and do it. I am so sure of this.

Oh, I am such a nosey guy. I wanted to tell you a story about a guy I know but I realized that it was too focused on what isn’t working instead of what is. I am a guy who finds a certain joy in what doesn’t work in other people’s lives because my life has a hard time moving forward. Please know this is a bad habit I hope to change right now. I am a bit of a stodgy guy at times and hope to change that too. So, find your character defects and work them into something good and then rest assured the love will come.

I am thinking how to end this. Oh, how about this?

Please relax and smile each time you speak to anyone. If I could I would because I see that technique works wonders all the time.

Singing you a beautiful song for spring….

Fondly,

Mark

Your Hardened Warrior of Living Well Now


The Days are Growing Flowers Soon

Dear Blog Readers,

I am sitting in The Red Hen bakery.

It is a sunny end of winter day.

Oh, I had a nice invitation to blog for Disability Awareness Day at the Statehouse.  I told Ed Paquin (Director of the Vermont Coalition for Disability Rights) I couldn’t do it because I was too into my own problems and unable to address the issues of people with disabilities.

I am happy to say that I have a good friend who turned my thinking around on that. He helped me to see that my issues are connected to the issues of people with disabilities because I have things I need services for to move my life forward. I know that once again the Shumlin budget shaves more developmental services.

Please think about why this happened. I am, first, referring to my stuck thought that my friend dislodged.

Only having access to typing my thoughts in short snippets of time means I am bad at conversations. Love to say that I was good at it but I am not. So I have thoughts that get stuck and don’t benefit from the massage a friend’s good thinking can give. I think I can fix this by not making ultimatums, seeking to gather more info and not feeling I am a victim of my life.

As for the budget we just have to keep getting our successful efforts of adding meaning to life known to the people who make decisions about our lives.

Thank you to everyone who came out for Disability Awareness Day at the Vermont Statehouse. We are making history while making our own lives better and brighter.

Be well friends.

Fondly,

Mark

The Voice of Seeing Love Grow Us Up

P.S. Thanks for all the lovely words you sent me last week.